Exact figures regarding cheating and infidelity are hard to come by since not everyone will agree to their mistakes. What we do know is that 30 to 60 percent of all married individuals will engage in infidelity at some point in their relationships. Unfortunately, these rates will not be dropping in the near future.
According to the Wall Street Journal, infidelity rates are up among young people under the age of 30. This is due, in part, to the time spent away from their spouse and also the habit of having multiple intimate partners before marriage. To make matters more complicated, there are no definitive signs of cheating, leaving partners to constantly worry about the state of their marriage.
While there is absolutely no excuse for cheating, it can be helpful to understand why some people are unfaithful to their partners. Below, we discuss some of the top reasons why people cheat.
All individuals want to be desired, but some take it too far. Men, in particular, tend to want the sex rather than the relationship. They are also able to separate themselves from intimacy more than women. In other words, when the sex isn’t working out in the current relationship, men (and sometimes women) begin affairs to improve their sex lives.
The day after Valentine’s Day 2014, the “dating” site AshleyMadison.com saw a 977 percent increase in memberships. Why? Because people have to deal with the stress from the holiday.
Women are frustrated with the lack of effort on their husbands’ parts, and men feel undervalued by their wives. Validation is an important factor in any relationship, and not getting it can lead partners to seek it elsewhere.
In some cases of infidelity, the person has fallen out of love with their husband or wife and feel that cheating is “acceptable.” It’s possible that the person is having stronger feelings for the person they are having an affair with, but in many instances, this is not true.
Some people cheat because they want something new in the bedroom. They might be curious and want to experiment with people other than their husband or wife who they share a family with. In fact, some partners are happy in their marriages and still choose to cheat for this reason alone.
While some people are skeptical about sex addiction, it is a real problem that certain men and women struggle with. These individuals engage in unhealthy behaviors and often put their relationships at risk. The only way to change this type of behavior is through an addiction recovery program.
Extramarital affairs are typically NOT a good idea. Though some marriages survive them and come out stronger, most do not. Both partners are left feeling hurt and betrayed. If you think that your husband or wife is cheating, let the private investigators from All State Investigation get you the answers you need to move forward. Call us today at 1-800-948-7884.