Now that summer is in full swing, the issue of traveling is most certainly bound to come up. If you're in a new relationship with someone, how do you know when it's the right time to go away with them? If it's too soon, you run the risk of compromising your relationship. At the same time, if you refuse a weekend getaway, you can also hurt your relationship. So what's a person to do?
No matter how much you like this person, you must always put your safety first. New relationships are fun and exciting, and it's easy to get carried away. Not to mention, you probably have a list of places you'd like to see, and now you finally have someone to do it with! It may seem perfectly logical to go away with your new love, but rushing into things can have serious consequences.
Let's state the obvious: you probably don't know the person very well. It takes months or longer to get to know a person and ensure that traveling with them is actually safe. If the person you're dating is mentally unstable in any way, this can make your travels dangerous. Things like extreme jealousy, paranoia or a bad temper are all red flags. You can always hire a private investigator to run a background check if you have any reservations.
Let's assume that the person you're dating is trustworthy. If that's the case, then you want to give him or her every opportunity, right? Traveling too soon can put too much pressure on a new relationship and cause you to see things in each other that are annoying.
If you haven't really built up a firm foundation and you realize that your date sleeps funny, doesn't pick up after himself or gives herself pep talks in the mirror, you may be discouraged from continuing the relationship, when really, it could work out great in the end. We all have our things.
A final consideration is setting yourself up for heartbreak. Let's say that you go away with your date and end up falling even more in love. But for them, it's the opposite. Now you've invested time, money and emotion into this person and have intimate memories. It's easy to think that you've found The One when traveling and acting like a long-term couple, but it can set you up for disappointment in the end.
Only you can make the decision as to when the best time to go away with a date is. But don't rush into things. If you feel safe and secure with the person and in the relationship, you are probably OK to see the world and create new memories. If you don't feel good about it, wait. If your relationship is meant to be, your date will have no problem waiting.
Stay tuned for Part 2 where we discuss tips for traveling with a new date in the NY and NJ areas.