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Tips on Confronting a Cheating Spouse

It is estimated that 30% to 60% married individuals in the United States will engage in infidelity at some point during the course of their relationship. Even these numbers look good when you consider that 50% of the marriages in the country end in divorce.

According to a study conducted by the University of Chicago in 2004, 25% of the men reporting having at least one extramarital affair and more than 12 million people were looking for a partner on the website,, which had a tag line “Life is Short, Have an Affair.”

Are You Being Cheated Upon Too?

There is a misconception that people cheat on their spouse after being married for a long time. In fact, a larger number of cases of infidelity are seen among people under the age of 30 years. One of the reasons for this is that the partners tend to spend more time away from each other due to their commitments and their proclivity to have sex with multiple partners, which they might have developed before marriage.

Most of the times, there are no definite signs of cheating. However, in hindsight, you'll always find them, say experts at All State Investigation, who have experience of 60 years in matrimonial and infidelity investigations across the United States.

If you find out that your spouse is cheating on you, how do you confront them? Do you throw evidence at them? Tell your best friend? Call a psychic? Remain silent and set a trap? Or hire a private investigator?

You are in your worst emotional state, so you might be vulnerable to making some disastrous decisions. Hers's how to deal with the situation.

Stay Calm

Do not panic and jump to conclusions. There can be varied reasons for your spouse’s behavior. For now, it is only a suspicion. You will need to be certain before you can confront your spouse.

Do Not Hurl Insults

Waking up to the cheating and using cuss words can work against you. Understand that your partner is looking for an opportunity to tell you that you are overreacting and exaggerating things. You could be called snoopy, petty, jealous, insecure, etc. Don’t fall into their trap and give them more fodder to place the blame of the relationship not working out on you.

Collect Enough Evidence

To avoid such situations, collect enough evidence before making the first move. Credit card bills, call logs and e-mails can be of great help. It is also advisable to enlist the help of an experienced and discrete investigator to gather accurate information.

Act natural until you have enough evidence to prove your partner guilty. Then, plan well, practice what you want to say, and even rehearse before bringing this up with your partner. Use the surprise element to your advantage.


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