Relationships can be the source of tremendous joy. On the other hand, they can also cause sleepless nights, low self-esteem and anxiety. If you believe you’re dealing with anxious thoughts and feelings, the first thing to know is that these emotions are normal.
While many believe anxiety is felt mostly in new relationships, the truth is that this feeling can emerge even after several years of being committed or married. “Does he/she still love me?” “Is he/she spending too much time with another person?” “Is he/she losing interest in me?” These thoughts can creep up at any point in a relationship.
Overdependence: When we feel anxious about a relationship, we tend to cling on harder and demand more time and attention. This can make you feel less independent and affect your self-respect and self-image. This causes the distance with your partner to grow, and becomes a vicious cycle.
Rejection: If you feel that your partner is seeing someone else, you may have a deep sense of rejection. We always tend to blame ourselves.
Loneliness: In a false attempt to regain our standing or respect in the relationship, we resort to aloofness and having an uncaring attitude. This causes greater loneliness and increases thoughts of insecurity.
So, mostly we beat ourselves down so low that it is tough to get up and face the real situation and work towards overcoming grief or the sense of loss.
In its worst form, anxiety can cause panic attacks. It can lower the strength of our immune system, making us more susceptible to common ailments. It can also upset the digestive and excretory systems, as well as lead to cardiovascular changes and reduce respiratory response. According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, anxiety affects over 40 million adults in the US, costing the nation about $42 billion annually, accounting for a third of the country's total health bill.
Anxious thoughts are extremely harmful for your mind and body. You need to identify if you’re having such thoughts and if you’re stressed out about your relationship. Another thing to keep in mind is that anxious thoughts are usually not unfounded, especially if such thoughts are creeping up after several years of being with your partner.
It is extremely important to take action, both to ease your anxiety and also to know the truth in order to gain complete peace of mind, say experts at All State Investigations. So, before you take that downward spiral into loneliness and low self-esteem, find out discretely whether your partner is really with someone else or if your anxiety is unwarranted.