You’ll find a wealth of friendly advice online when it comes to handling a cheating boyfriend. But, are there some things you should NOT do?
This is a very emotional time, and acting rational almost goes out the window. You’re mad. You’re angry. You’re ready to get even. Even though you have a right to feel this way, it’s important not to act impulsively.
If you haven’t been with your boyfriend for very long and you don’t share much, there’s not much at stake. However, if you’ve been with your significant other for quite some time and share an apartment, credit card bills, a dog, etc. you have a lot more to lose. Acting out can cause you to get the raw end of the deal, something that you don’t want.
Let’s take a look at some things that you should NOT do when your boyfriend is caught red handed.
Most cheaters will lie through their teeth unless they are confronted with hardcore evidence. Even if you “think” you have evidence, make sure it’s concrete and can’t be disputed.
As you build up your case, gather evidence and put it away where it can never be found. It’s recommend to work with a private investigator who can obtain real information in a legal manner while also keeping you safe.
It’s amazing how many victims get blamed for being cheated on. No matter how tired and crabby you’ve been after work, this is no excuse to be unfaithful. Cheaters are responsible for their actions, so don’t get sucked into feeling sorry for them.
If you work with a private detective, gather evidence and build a case, you won’t be acting out impulsively when you ask your boyfriend to stay or leave. You know what’s been going on, and you have to be somewhat prepared for what may result.
If the guy wants to leave, then obviously the decision is made for you. But if he wants to stay and work on the relationship, it’s your decision to do so. You can always say no and move on - and take the dog.
Breakups are never easy, but there are right and wrong ways to handle things. If you have a lot at stake, work with a PI to get the evidence you need to have an edge in your “relationship.” This will give you more confidence and power to take care of things the way YOU want.