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Do I Tell My Boyfriend That I Cheated on Him?

Did you cheat on your boyfriend and now you're unsure of whether or not you should tell him? Infidelity puts a relationship in danger. There are two sides to consider, and it should come down to what you can live with and the circumstances surrounding your relationship.

To Tell or Not to Tell?

If the cheating was a one night stand at a random hotel in New Jersey and won't happen again, it may be best not to say anything, especially if you think that your boyfriend won't be forgiving. You must also be able to live with what happened and not let the guilt eat at your relationship or your trust.

On the other hand, not telling can be selfish. Your boyfriend has the right to know what happened and the right to decide whether he wants to continue the relationship.

Telling your boyfriend he has a cheating girlfriend is a personal decision, but it can help to speak with a therapist or counselor. Of course, if you get caught or are approached by your boyfriend with evidence, come clean and address the situation.

Tips for Coming Clean

Since honesty is the best policy in most cases, we have a few tips for telling your boyfriend about your fling or one night stand. Give him space and be committed to working at your relationship, but remember that the final choice is up to him.

  • Stay Calm. Avoid getting hysterical or crying, even though you may want to.

  • Choose a Private Place. Don't try to manipulate the situation by doing it in public. Tell him in private.

  • ...And in Person. Tell him face to face, not by phone, email, text or social media.

  • Be Honest. Don't start lying now. You don't need to give details, but you should tell him when it happened, with who and why.

  • Apologize. Take responsibility for what took place. No excuses, no blaming. It wasn't the right thing to do.

  • Be Prepared. Your boyfriend may ask questions. He may walk away. He may want to talk. Be prepared for his reaction - big or small.

  • Give Him What He Wants. If he needs time to think, give it to him. Even though it's hard, he deserves this.

  • Leave the Friends Out of It. Don't send friends to talk to him on your behalf.

  • Be Ready. If your boyfriend wants to repair the relationship, work on it with him. If he doesn't, respect his decision. Be honest about what was lacking and be committed to making things better.

Are you worried that your boyfriend or girlfriend is cheating on you? Call All State Investigation to get the answers you need to continue your relationship with confidence.



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