Just caught your boyfriend cheating on you? You're not alone. More than 50% of men have admitted to committing infidelity, according to data released by Statistic Brain in September 2016.
Trusting someone can be hard. Trusting someone after having caught him cheating on you can seem almost impossible. Rebuilding trust can be an emotionally turbulent experience and may take a lot of effort. However, before you begin preparing yourself for the emotional upheaval of trusting again, it is important to decide whether your partner really deserves the trust. Here are some things that you can do to determine this.
If you've caught your partner cheating, it means the affair was still on when you discovered it. Before you begin working on the relationship, it's important to determine whether the affair is over. If your partner continues with the affair even after being caught, you know for sure that it's time for you to move on. On the other hand, knowing that your partner is no longer meeting the other woman can give you peace of mind and help you rebuild your trust. You can either look out for signs or hire professional investigators to be sure.
Understanding the reasons for cheating is very important. If there's something your partner is missing in the relationship, it's best to talk about it. This will help you decide whether you wish to work on the relationship. It would also reveal whether your partner has the tendency to give into temptation.
Your partner will need to work hard at winning your trust again. It is a good idea to make him aware of your expectations or the actions you believe would help you trust him again. If your partner is receptive to your needs and is willing to work on meeting your expectations, there's hope for the future. Being open is the biggest driver of trust, says a survey published by Institute of Leadership and Management.
No, you don't need to talk about the infidelity to his friends. However, just casual conversations with his friends will tell you a lot about your boyfriend. We tend to make friends with people who share similar values. You can find out what his friends feel about commitment and infidelity.
The journey to rebuilding trust is a difficult one, to say the least. The first step is to determine whether your partner can be trusted again. Finding out whether the affair is over, understanding the reasons for your partner's infidelity and determining his willingness to make things work will contribute immensely when you begin working on trusting him again.