Dating isn’t easy for anyone, but it poses unique challenges for single mothers. Not only do they have to think about what’s best for themselves but also their children. Finding Mr. Right is never easy, but it’s especially hard when there’s children from a previous relationship involved.
Even though single mothers have obstacles, there’s no reason why they shouldn’t have the same opportunities to date as their peers. But there is an important message that one mother recently shared online that she wants every single mother to know: Check the National Sex Offender Registry.
This powerful video comes from a 34-year-old single mother who thought she had found the perfect man. She had known him for 20 years. He had children of his own and was a U.S. Navy Veteran and cop. He had good relationships with his family, including his mother. Unfortunately, he assaulted her daughter when she was just 15.
You can never be too careful these days, especially when you have children involved in your life. Here are simple tips to follow as you head back into the dating scene.
Aside from saying that you have kids, keep them out of your discussions in the beginning. The person you’re dating doesn’t need to know their names, genders or ages at this point.
Set up a dating email contact that can’t be tracked. If you use your main email, it can be searched and most likely tracked if you’ve ever used it for shopping sites.
Social media is another easy way for people to find out about your children, where you live, what you do for a living and more. Watch what you post on your social accounts, and set your profiles to “private” while actively dating.
As the mother from the video above suggested, do a little digging on the person before going out with them. There are many online tools available that allow you to run background checks for a nominal fee.
Once you move forward in a relationship, it’s smart to learn more about the person before giving them personal information. A private investigator can uncover information about the individual, run an in-depth background check and put your mind at ease.
You have them for a reason. If something doesn’t feel right, it’s probably not. People will tell all kinds of stories, so if you think they are untrue, you don’t have to believe them. Either hire a PI to uncover the truth or walk away from the relationship.
At the end of the day, nothing is more important than the safety of you and your children. Protect your family by checking the National Sex Offender Registry, running a background check and even hiring a private investigator. People who are trustworthy will understand your reasons for doing this and will probably be doing the same for themselves.