Infidelity is more common than one would imagine. In fact, a study conducted by the American Psychological Association found that as many as 40% married couples in the US have extramarital affairs.
Q1. What are the signs that my partner is having an affair?
The signs of an affair may not be obvious, but they are always there. Some of the most common signs are:
Increased attention to appearance: Sudden change in dressing style, frequent visits to the gym, purchasing more perfumes or accessories, etc.
Changes in mood for no apparent reason: An extramarital affair usually takes an emotional toll on a person. Maintaining secrecy, feelings of guilt and being available for two people are difficult things to deal with. If you find your partner becoming mentally preoccupied, aloof and not share reasons for being distracted or stressed, these could be signs of an affair.
Unexplained behaviors: Moving away to attend frequent phone calls, the computer screen being changed in a hurry when you walk closer, going out more often than before, etc.
None of these signs alone would be something to worry about. And even with these signs, your partner may not be having an affair.
Q2. I suspect that my partner is having an affair, should I confront him/her?
Confronting your partner may be the most difficult thing you have done in your life. Also, it can be risky, depending on whether you have enough evidence of the affair. It's better to be sure and have incriminating evidence before taking such a huge step that has the potential of destroying your relationship with your partner, says a professional private investigator at All State Investigations.
Q3. Can a relationship be considered as an affair if it's not physical?
Infidelity is not limited to a physical relationship. It can have many forms, including emotional affairs or liaising via the telephone or over the internet, according to a report published by the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. So, the absence of physical intimacy does not mean that the affair is not taking place. If a relationship is emotionally intense and a significant amount of time is spent together, it can be categorized as an affair. Most importantly, if this relationship is conducted in secrecy and is strong enough to detract from the marriage, it is an extramarital affair.
The chances are much better than you think. However, both partners should want it and would need to work hard on the relationship. For this, it's important to confront the infidel partner with hard evidence, so that he/she cannot rely on denial. The process of regaining trust is a difficult journey and needs the commitment of both partners.
With infidelity being so common, it is essential to recognize the signs. Also, one needs to understand that infidelity may or may not involve physical intimacy. It's not a great idea to confront your partner based on suspicion; rather it's best to be sure and also have evidence. If both partners are committed to making the relationship work, the chances of staying together even post infidelity are high.